Divorce, Co-Parenting, & Family Transitions Coaching
Built into our family-law representation. Required in active family-law matters.
Available to every client we represent.
When my own marriage ended, I learned something I wish I had known earlier: a good lawyer is not always enough.
I had a great attorney and therapist. But the day-to-day work of separating, co-parenting, communicating, and staying grounded when everything felt personal required a different kind of support. I worked with a divorce and co-parenting coach alongside my therapist, and the difference was immediate.
Therapy gave me a place to process. Coaching gave me skills.
I learned how to write a co-parenting message that would not escalate the next twelve. I learned how to walk into a hard conversation prepared instead of activated. I learned how to parent inside a structure I did not grow up in, during a season where every choice felt loaded.
Going through that — and seeing what it did for me — changed how I want to practice law. And now, after a highly contentious divorce of my own, I have an incredible co-parenting relationship. My ex-spouse is one of my closest friends. I never thought that day would come.
So we are changing how we do this.
A Note From Zach:
What We Now Offer.Every client of Zachary W. Anderson Law has access to in-house divorce, co-parenting, family transitions, and life coaching as part of their representation, with no separate coaching fee.
For our family, custody, divorce, and domestic-relations clients, coaching is part of the case structure. Active family-law clients are expected to meet with our coach at least once per month while the case is pending, unless we agree otherwise in writing.
We made it part of the process because we have seen what happens when clients try to carry the legal, emotional, parenting, and communication pieces alone. We have also seen what changes when clients have real support between attorney meetings, court deadlines, co-parenting messages, and hard decisions.
For our other clients — including estate planning, business, guardianship, LGBTQIA+ legal work, and other matters — the same coach is available in a life-coaching capacity when helpful. Big legal moments do not always look like divorce, but they almost always involve stress, decision fatigue, family dynamics, identity, grief, money, fear, or conversations you were never taught how to have.
You do not have to navigate that part alone either.
Why this matters in high-conflict divorce and custody cases.
Most of us are not taught how to co-parent in conflict.
How do you communicate with someone you no longer trust about a child you both love? How do you respond to a message designed to push your buttons without giving the response the other person is hoping you will write? How do you stay regulated long enough to think clearly during a custody exchange?
These are not side issues. They are the daily reality of many contested family-law cases.
And they are skills.
Skills can be taught. They can be practiced. They can be strengthened.
Coaching gives you real-time support for the moments that often happen between legal strategy calls: the text message you want to send, the exchange you are dreading, the conversation with your child, the spiral after a court filing, the fear that you are doing everything wrong.
When clients have that support, they often come into legal conversations more prepared, more grounded, and more focused. That helps us spend attorney time on legal strategy instead of using every meeting to untangle the emotional emergency of the day.
It can also reduce unnecessary conflict, unnecessary back-and-forth, and unnecessary legal expense. Not every hard moment needs an attorney billing rate. Sometimes it needs a coach, a plan, and a pause.
What coaching is, and what it is not.
Coaching is client-centered support within your representation.
Our coach is part of the firm team and works under attorney supervision. Coaching conversations are handled under our firm's professional duties of confidentiality, and we explain the boundaries of that confidentiality in writing before coaching begins.
Coaching is not therapy.
Our coach is a trained, certified divorce and co-parenting coach — not a licensed mental-health professional. If clinical care is what you need, our coach can help you identify that need and support you in finding the right professional. Many clients work with both a therapist and a coach at the same time. That is exactly what I did, and it is often the strongest combination.
Coaching is not legal advice.
Legal questions stay with me and the rest of the legal team. The coach's role is to help you think clearly, communicate effectively, prepare for difficult conversations, and build the skills you need to move through the process with more stability.
When we talk about legal strategy, we want you walking into that conversation ready.
One important note on mandatory reporting.
Nebraska law requires certain reports when a person has reasonable cause to believe a child has been subjected to abuse or neglect, or is being subjected to conditions that would reasonably result in abuse or neglect. We explain this in writing before coaching begins so you understand the boundaries clearly and can make informed decisions about what you share.
Meet our coach.
Jaye is the divorce, co-parenting, and family transitions coach at Zachary W. Anderson Law, where he supports clients as they navigate the personal side of separation, divorce, and shared parenting. He brings more than two decades of experience as a credentialed coach and leadership development professional, with advanced training in executive, personal, and life coaching. Jaye holds a Master of Science in Leadership Education from the University of Nebraska-Lincoln, is an International Coaching Federation Associate Certified Coach (ACC), and is a Board Certified Coach (BCC) through the Center for Credentialing & Education.
His work is rooted in creating warm, trustworthy spaces where clients feel safe enough to reflect honestly, name what matters, and decide what comes next. Even in emotionally charged moments, Jaye brings a calm, steady presence — and a practical focus on the skills clients need to communicate, co-parent, and move forward with clarity.
In Jaye's own words.
“When people come to coaching during a divorce or a hard co-parenting season, they are usually carrying a lot at once — legal pressure, parenting decisions, grief, anger, fear of getting it wrong, and the weight of conversations they never expected to be having. My job is not to tell you what to do. My job is to help you slow down enough to think clearly, name what you actually want, and build the skills to handle the next message, the next exchange, the next conversation with your child.
I work alongside your legal team so the support fits with what is happening in your case. Some sessions are about a specific text you need to send. Some are about preparing for a hard conversation. Some are about untangling what you are feeling from what you need to do next. All of it is in service of helping you walk through this season with more steadiness, and come out the other side with your relationships, your parenting, and your sense of self intact.”
What you can expect in a first session.
Our first session is a conversation, not an assessment. We will talk about what is happening in your life right now, what is feeling hardest, and what you would want to be different a month from now. I will explain how coaching works, including the boundaries of confidentiality and mandatory reporting, so you know exactly what to expect before we go further. By the end of the session, we will have a working sense of where to focus and what kind of support will be most useful for you. There is no script. We start where you are.
Jaye Stentz [He/his/him]
Ready to get started?
If you are already a client, your engagement letter will explain how coaching works, and we will schedule your first session as part of intake.
If you are considering becoming a client, this is part of what you receive when you work with us: legal strategy, human support, and practical tools for the parts of the case that do not fit neatly into a court filing.